Caution With Baby sitter

Baby sitter was so important that when we can not be near the child. But that does not mean we should take it easy. There must remain vigilant

Recently in Taipei (Taiwan), a 3-month-old baby beaten caregivers. Beaten, thrown onto the sofa, and other harsh treatment. That any new light after the baby brother 2.5-year-old complained to his father and mother. She said, her brother had often treated as such by his babysitter.

Between believing and not, finally dipasanglah a camera to monitor and record what the caregivers. Sure enough, the nurse treating the baby with a little rough while only able to cry loudly. The scene was one had aired on television around the world, including Indonesia. "Of course, its impact on the child will be very great," commented Prof. Dr. Singgih D. Gunarsa very touched by the news about the rude treatment. Baby, Singgih said, is like a batter who has not been formed. "So hard and rough treatment that will map out something to him," explained Vice Chairman Tarumanagara Foundation. Could be when you grow up going to lose the delicacy of the baby, loss of temper, or lose the intimacy. Because all he got was not used due to rough treatment and hard more often received.


Although these events took place in neighboring countries, but enough to make anxious parents, especially mothers who are forced to surrender on child support alias nanny babysitter because they have to work outside the home. It is also a concern Singgih so that he then reminds parents to be careful in choosing a nanny. "Do not just focus solely on caregiver skills. Notice also the factor of affection because a babysitter is a private figure who would be constantly in touch with the kids," said the former Head of Child Psychology and Development University of Indonesia.

Indeed, I Singgih, not easy to get a figure of caregivers who have a love of children. The problem is, the caregiver is not the mother who gave birth to the child directly. "In short, the babysitter was not prepared to become a mother," he said. Supplies they receive from any foundation, generally only limited ways to feed babies. About how to coax the baby to eat, for example, is not in the lesson.

In fact, not infrequently happens, how should wash dishes / drinks baby, still often should we teach and train. Well, no more talk about the knowledge related to infant growth and development. Very difficult to expect.


So, remember not easy to choose and get the right nanny, babysitter Singgih likened the selection process similar to the selection of company employees. "The first thing should be relied upon is feeling or the feeling of the old man. We may not have the background to assess a caregiver with an objective way. So, like it or not we should use the feeling," said the author of numerous books on psychology and psychological development of this sport .

In addition, parents also need to consider how to talk to the prospective nanny. From there, said Singgih, can know how the caregivers respond to the baby. These responses will be to develop a way to talk to the baby. "Yes, do not require excellent grammar. The logical-logical. We, do, do not get to teach a caregiver to speak the language of regular and good." At least, from the tone of voice of the prospective nanny, parents can know whether his voice harsh or rough, and so forth.

However, even if the parents have found a nanny that "appropriate" for her baby, Singgih still ask that parents do not just rely on trust when using the services the caregivers. "How busy anything, parents should remain active to find out how the treatment of the caregivers of infants. The term, make checks and ricek. Do not let the parents give up entirely on trust babysitters."

Of course, surveillance and monitoring system is indeed not easy. But at least the parents have to keep trying to find the best solution. Well, one of the surveillance system is offered Singgih invite other people in the house to work together. Whether it's helper, driver or gardener. "So, while the parents go, get them to keep an eye on babysitters. If they have the intention to help them will certainly easier to work with."


To find out if the baby is experiencing violence or not, can be detected by looking at it physically. For example, there is found a bruise on a particular part or in whole body. While a psychic, detection can be done by looking at the baby's fussiness. "Baby's fussiness is a short-term impact is easily recognizable when he was not treated properly from the caregivers," explained Singgih.

Well, if the baby's mother was always cranky, beware. That could be a sign of an imposition. Because, as stated by the Chairman of the Indonesian Child Foundation, "A force will always cause unpleasant feeling."

Furthermore, when parents realize or suspect the baby suffered physical violence, Singgih stressed the baby should be immediately withdrawn from the atmosphere. "Not just because we are then forced to entrust our babies to someone who we know are not good."

At the same time, immediately bring the baby to a specialist child mental observations, emotions, or health, so they can know how severe the violence experienced by the baby. "A child's physician will soon be able to detect, where a happy child or an unhappy child."

Then, if all the impact of this violence can be eliminated? Thankfully, the answer is, yes! Although the science of psychology, according to Singgih, violence can leave a "memory" in their own child's memory, but, nonetheless, still not set in stone. "The smaller the child, the greater the opportunity to improve. Therefore parents need to quickly replace the violence that has occurred with a touch of affection in children and of course parents need to take your child to the doctor's skill," said a professor at the Graduate Program UI and the University of Gajah Mada this.

Need Interview

One thing that is often forgotten by the mothers nurse their children when recruiting candidates is to conduct interviews. Often the mothers had had enough just to hear references from acquaintances that the foundation of his so-good babysitter, and then immediately receive the caregivers after calling the foundation. Gratitude if the mother can directly obtain a suitable caregiver and good, but if not?

Now, to prevent anything untoward, try to do the interview first. The following tips can help mothers in the interview:

* Is it neat and clean?

Note the appearance when you first met him. Dirty stained clothes, hair or looks uneven, dull and sticky because rarely washed, and nails, dirty hands is a bad sign.

* Is he disciplined enough?

This minimum can be known from the late-at least he was at the first meeting. When he arrived late, you may doubt discipline. Because, when it comes to little things he could not discipline, how such big issues with the feeding of children. I could have your baby will have irregular eating patterns.

* Is it fairly regularly?

When you ask him to show a letter from the foundation, if he stirred up the entire contents of her bag? If so, could be a sign he is not someone who regularly and tend to be careless.

* Is he physically can rely?

Besides the candidates should really physically healthy, you have to look her age. Do not let you choose the caregiver that he was already approaching middle age. Despite the age it can be said to have experienced at least he would have experienced caring for her own son but he was not reliable enough to hold the baby all day, either at the time of the new baby is born or when the baby has grown big.

To ensure the health condition of the caregivers, a reference check with his health on the part of the foundation. If you are not sure while you're already convinced with the candidates, it's worth checking your prospective nanny to the doctor. After all, it's for your kindness and your child as well.

* Does he seem fond of children?

To find out, you need to test it. Give time around 1-2 hours for the candidate with your baby. Watch and observe how the interaction between them. Does he have the patience, friendly, interested, sensitive, and respond to the needs of the baby?

* Does he seem smart?

You certainly want someone who can teach and entertain the baby, also can take the right decisions in difficult situations. Mode can test it by asking several questions, for example, what will he do when the baby crying, refusing to eat, sick, and so forth.

* Is he quite communicative?

From the way he speaks and answering your questions, this can be known. If speech or answer only a few words or just as needed, perhaps she was not a talkative person.

* Do you feel comfortable with it?

Despite all the above requirements can be met by the candidate, but if you still feel less comfortable, you should not try to force myself to accept it. For the good of the baby, you have to have a match with the caregivers. Thus, open communication between the two of you can be intertwined.

Ask the foundation to submit candidates for other caregivers. Or, you better come over there when the foundation has enough "stock" babysitter, so you also have many alternatives.


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